Those of you who watch The Big Bang Theory and are up to date will
know what I'm talking about. Or those who are more in tune with social media as
this test, please keep reading, apparently stormed social media, claims the Entertainment
Weekly website.
This test is a psychological
love experiment. It was claimed in an
article, origin unknown, that 'two people can fall in love in a matter of hours
if they answer a series of intimate questions, followed by four minutes of
staring into each other’s eyes'.
So this test was originally published by Arthur Aron, in 1997, in a paper
named 'The Experimental Generation of INterpersonal Closeness: A Procedure and
Some Preliminary Findings. So it's not a new study, but one that seems to have
been rebranded and pushed out there. As most new ideas usually are.
I did this test with a friend while eating lunch in Pizza Hut
today. Now, we've gone way past falling love and gone onto contentment, so this was
purely an experiment, and not a way to get away from being forever
alone.
It took me a while to find it though, as searching for the episode
title just came up with pages upon pages of reviews. Eventually I found it and
got the questions, if which there are 36. In the paper, there is also a second
set of 36 questions, but we only did a couple from that.
I think this was a great way to just open up with someone, and I
can see how it would bring you closer to someone, but not fall in love. Unless
that creepy 4 minutes of staring is actually supposed to do something, which we
didn't do, cause (as we told each other) we'd probably end up going blind. We just have that kind of relationship. I think you should all try this with someone. Be it a friend,
spouse/OH, pet, or blind date. Possibly not a parent cause they don't need to
know most this shit, and they come up in a couple of questions.
OR! We could do this with each other? And then we can skype and stare at each other? Just a thought. Let me know!
The Questions.
1.
Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a phone call, do you ever
rehearse what you’re going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a perfect day for
you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To
someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90
and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of
your life, which would you choose?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you
will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner
appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the
way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner
your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having
gained one quality or ability, what would it be?
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the
truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you
want to know?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamt of
doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of
your life?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you would
die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in
your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider
a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you
feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
24. How do you feel about your relationship
with your mother?
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For
instance, “we are both in this room feeling…”
26. Complete this sentence “I wish I had
someone with whom I could share…”
27. If you were going to become a close
friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her
to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about
them: Be honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone
you’ve just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing
moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of another
person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner something that you like
about them already.
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be
joked about?
33. If you were to die this evening with no
opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having
told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you
own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any
one item. What would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose
death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your
partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to
reflect back to you how you seem to feel about the problem you have chosen.
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